WHAT IF YOU COULD COMPLETELY TRANSFORM YOURSELF?
WHAT IF YOU COULD TAKE CHARGE, CREATE, AND CONQUER YOUR LIFE?
Does this sound impossible? Maybe that’s because you’ve been conditioned to think that life must play out based on certain rules or external factors… like your family, work in the career you chose in school or early on in life, or what you are “supposed” to do. As women, many of us coming from minority or traditional families, we were never given the freedom to think big and think for ourselves. We were taught early on what is realistic, and perhaps never given the chance to think about what is possible outside of the limitations of our family and early influencers. We were told not to be selfish. We were taught to listen to our parents or authority figures. We were taught to care for everyone else around us and that we come last. We were taught to follow a safe path, regardless of that passionate flame stirring relentlessly inside our hearts.
Over time, we were taught to disregard our internal guiding compass: our intuition. Our intuition is a complex synthesis of a lifetime of information filtered through our senses. To continue to ignore this single greatest logical tool is the biggest disservice we can do for ourselves… and for the world.
I believe every one of us come with our unique gifts to serve the world. If you’re like me, you’re full of purpose in whatever you do. Whether you’re currently following a path in a career that is considered stable, or you’re finally taking the steps to kindle that flame in your heart into a fire, you know that you have something special within to serve the world. To ignore this gift and to not let your greatest talent shine is the most selfish thing you can do. It’s the most destructive thing to withhold information and talents that can inspire and change lives.
Maybe every minute of every day feels taken up by obligations and you can’t see how you can ever find the time to tackle to decode that flame within. Maybe the mental and physical exhaustion of being there for your family, partner, and friends leave you with little room to think about your innermost self. Or maybe, because you’re so used to doing everything on your own, you think you’ve got it all figured out… you may feel that you are making a great income or have all that you can ask for in your relationships… but truthfully, deep inside, you know that this just isn’t true.
Nobody Really Talks About Us!
I’m Julia Cha. I turned my rock bottom at the age of 29 as my chance to soar from the ashes of my failure. At 29, I was a broke single mom of a 4-year-old and a 9-month-old. I did not have a career. I got pregnant at 25 while being committed to a highly dysfunctional relationship. I always dreamed of living in a big city like NYC and having great friends and adventures like in “Friends” or “Sex In the City.” Being in your 30’s is portrayed as the best time of your life! On my 30th birthday, I woke up as a single mom, living in an old, bug-ridden apartment, working minimum wage, and attempting to run a dance program as a side business for adults. Not only was I broke, I was broken. I did not even know how to manage and take care of myself properly, and I had to first take care of my two little ones! In my original family, I had survived years of abuse following the death of my mother at age 4. I ran from my dysfunctional, hyper-traditional original family into another dysfunctional relationship that disregarded my voice and undermined me. My life was a complete failure. I had no career, no family support, and I had no idea who I was.
I certainly did not DESIGN MY LIFE to get to this point.
Most of my life was a series of failures: in my relationships, and I was clueless about finances… the only thing I knew how to do well was parenting with love and grace. Until I started doing serious self-discovery work, which included 4 years of cognitive therapy, as well as years of coaching and self-study in the field of personal development, I had no idea why I kept making the choices that did not lead me to fulfillment. I had no idea what I truly wanted. I had no idea why I could never get what I want. I had no idea that I was responsible for my current life. I had no idea that external factors, like not having the money or a career, or being excluded or judged were irrelevant. In order to soar from here, all I had to do was to change myself. Not my appearance. I had to change my internal life. More specifically, my thinking patterns.
Initially, I kept thinking that money will make things better, so I poured my energy into getting jobs. I gave up my dance teaching career because it did not generate enough money. I went into sales and did well, however, my earnings never seem to turn anything around. I still struggled emotionally and was prone to depression. I was impeccable in my appearance. I was slim, youthful looking, and very fashionable. That did not help to improve my life. It created no lasting change, nor did it help me feel better about myself in the long term.
I was driven but confused. I was making what seemed to be good choices at the time, but I found myself constantly running into walls.
Then I found coaching. I’ve been a big fan of personal development since I was 16 years old. To cope with my abusive home where I was being mentally, physically, and sexually abused, I rushed out of my high school every day to catch Oprah on TV. I had to take the first bus after school in order to catch her on TV. All the girls I knew were interested in boys, crop tops, and belly piercings. Instead, I watched Oprah religiously and got my hands on Jack Canfield’s Chicken Soup For The Soul series. These strategies always worked for me in the moment. It helped me create motivation and optimism to survive through my suicidal thoughts. However, I never seemed to be able to make actual lasting changes in my life. I kept making similar mistakes over and over. My life never got past the level of just surviving. It got me to my rock bottom at 29.
Sitting in a whole lot of mess at age 29, I was desperate to make life better for my children. So I applied everything I could and resourced up. I was fortunate to meet a mentor, Frances Hamm, who is a cognitive therapist. I realized that all this time, I have been coaching myself to do better. That’s how I was able to stay out from addictions and other reckless activities, which is a likely statistic for someone with my background. At 16, I started living with my brother without any parents. Despite my unstable, difficult background, I had managed to graduate high school with higher than average grades and earn a university degree without any adult support, guidance, or supervision. What my mentor of 4 years taught me, which is extremely valuable, are the concepts of self-soothing and self-coaching. What I learned in my journey is that motivation doesn’t last nor delivers results. Actions do. Motivation is fleeting and too vulnerable when it faces the subconscious mind’s belief systems. Motivations frequently disappear when we come across obstacles. Self-soothing and self-coaching is the only way we can allow ourselves to get over any hurdle. We decide for ourselves in the subconscious level what we deserve and what we want to manifest. To break any cycle, we must first change our deep beliefs. Changing our deep beliefs change our thoughts, and our thoughts generate the actions we take. The actions deliver the results, which is our life.
I delved into everything I could to change my belief systems. The results I have after 5 years is extraordinary. Now I have a great life. I feel certain and grounded. I act on intent and on purpose. I always state what I want and go for what I want. Having an extraordinary life in my terms is unnegotiable for me. I achieved this with the help of my mentor and many coaches, who I owe everything to and hold them in a special place in my heart with all my gratitude.
The biggest lesson I learned in this process is that none of us can do this alone.
And for some of us, we don’t even realize how much our family background has an impact on the decisions we make in life. Many of us don’t realize that pattern we continue to create which is only a reflection of the past, or a reflection of the generations before us. Many of us don’t realize that so much of our conflict arises from our family’s cultural habits and expectations, and the expectations we have ourselves growing up in a world of free will and independence. Ever since I tackled this piece, my life has completely transformed. Now, I coach driven women to become clear, and design a life of success… success in your own terms.
I love coaching driven women with traditional family backgrounds to start living for themselves… while showing up as the best version of themselves in the world.
You are my people! You’re intelligent, hard-working, caring, and give every piece of yourself to your family and friends. You’re an open-minded thinker who wants to know understand what is holding you back, and what it will take to get yourself to the next level. You’ve dedicated your life following a path that perhaps was not yours, and now you’re ready to blaze your own path!
As your coach, I tell all my clients that deep down, you have all the answers! I also don’t tell you what you should do. What I do is create a safe space for you be truthful and stop thinking about other people’s opinions and approvals. We work on seeing patterns and the conditioning that set our life blueprint, as early as age 0-7. We remove one limitation at a time. We get rid of all the dirt and thought messes. Your life sparks and catches on super fire when you go through this process. Getting what you want is effortless once you’ve worked through the beliefs that were holding you back.
Why this is amazing…
We get on the phone once a week for approximately 10 weeks for 8 modules of the program. While the program is tested time and time again, the phone coaching aspect makes it tailored to you and your specific situation. I understand better than anyone else what it’s like to be a woman of minority and/or from traditional homes! The family dynamics, the gender expectations, the emotional and thought blueprinting… all of it!
So where do we start?
If you’re a driven woman who is ready to strip yourself of limitations and beliefs that don’t serve you, and you’re ready to completely turn your life around and start LIVING POWERFULLY, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org to sign up for a mini session.