It’s interesting to observe the areas in life that we achieved little results. What is your area that you know you need to work on the most? Finance/career, health, relationships, contentment, spirituality?
When we become honest with ourselves as we observe – without judgment – WHY we lack in certain areas, what we find is that we hide behind avoidance. We either avoid feeling negative emotions or avoid some form of risk. The risk of putting ourselves out there, the risk of taking the right action to get what we want, the risk of making changes. Our brains are wired to be efficient. Change in habits and behavior disrupts efficiency. If we allow our minds to run in default, without creating set intentions, our minds will resist change and continue to run its course – no matter how destructive our patterns are.
Taking risks – the right type of risks – require a lot of mind effort. We must constantly evaluate whether the action we decide to take is actually valid to get us to our goals. If you’re not getting what you want, likely you’re choosing actions that sort of seem to help to reach your goals, but it involves no risk or feeling negative emotions. For example, if I want to improve my health, and decide to read all about exercise and healthy eating in magazines, while still finding myself excuses to eat a cheat meal daily, I am tricking my brain to think that I’m working towards a fitness goal. This is hiding behind avoidance. The kind of avoidance that if we are not honest with ourselves, our minds choose instead of taking the right actions. This is how we don’t get results. This is how we get further from our goal, even though we are thinking about it. Only reading about health without making massive effort to apply the healthy eating and exercise habits seems ridiculous. However, if we deeply observe our daily habits, we will find that we have these silly patterns play out in our daily lives. It’s when we can’t stop spending when we want to improve our finances. We convince ourselves that we needed something when we really just wanted it for immediate gratification. It’s when we yell at the ones we love when we want to improve our relationships, then blame the circumstances. It’s when we know when we want to create our own business, while putting 90% of our time and energy overdoing in other areas that we are familiar with, such as family and relationships. Or, we read a lot of business books and ideas, but too scared to take any action. We convince ourselves that we are doing “research.” Avoidance shows up in my seemingly legit ways.
What are we risking? We’re risking the possibility of failure, not getting what we want. We are risking our own hearts, as daring to go for it takes courage. We are risking the opinion of others. We are risking the status quo. We risk changing life as we know it. What we don’t realize is that avoidance will never get us to our goals. We fail by default. Avoidance makes us contract even smaller, instead of daring and expanding. We risk the opinion of others whether we take risks or not. We are always risking the status quo. It’s ever-changing. Life, as we know it, is already changing.
The first step to creating is to become familiar with risks. Only risks can get us what we want. Only through risks we expand, evolve, and truly get what we want.
What actions do you need to take? Immerse in them, full force.